How long have you been fighting with your ex? Do you realize that when we fight we are acting like children? I’m right, no, I’m right. Isn’t it time for you to try something different? A new way for you and your ex to resolve disputes?

Well, there is a way to resolve disputes and reach a divorce agreement. Try divorce mediation.

You, and, more importantly, your kids, can’t afford for you to act like children. They need you as parents. They are scared about the uncertainty of the future. You have to pull it together and WORK together as a team to continue raising your kids. Together. Now more than ever.

So, for goodness’ sakes, stop fighting already. It’s not all so important. Your children are.

How are you getting along with your co-parent? Not so great? Well, its time to put down the magnifying glass, and pick up the mirror!

It’s simple to have an uncontested divorce, and to minimize the damage of the divorce process on your relationship with your co-parent. Here’s one way to get it on track. Ask yourself this question:

When was the last time you said “Thank You” to your co-parent? For being interested in seeing the children? For paying their child support? For anything at all?

Isn’t it just possible that you will get more of what you want, if you look for the positive, rather than what’s wrong, what’s missing, and ACKNOWLEDGE your co-parent for it? How different would your relationship be if you did this at the beginning of every conversation with them?

It’s your JOB to get along with your co-parent. It’s the LAW. Most importantly, it’s what’s BEST for your children’s mental, emotional, psychological and, yes, their medical well-being. We all know what stress does to us, don’t we?

So, save yourself a bunch of money on divorce lawyers, and give your family a break. The next time you see or speak with your co-parent, how about digging deep and finding something positive to say, something to thank them for? It’s EASY once you remember - it’s for the KIDS!

Try this effective method for breaking the cycle of conflict with your co-parent:

One evening each week, at a pre-designated. mutually agreed upon time, have a “Positive Co-Parenting Phone Call”. This is where one co-parent calls the other for the sole purpose of imparting some positive information regarding the children. Then the other parent gives some positive information about the children to the other parent. The next week, the other parent initiates the call.

A simple phone call to discuss something positive about your children. That’s it. Nothing else. It can be about anything at all. The only rule is that it must be positive. No problems or issues are to be discussed.

This technique will help you to change your paradigm regarding speaking with your co-parent as negative, and always about problems. You may find that you begin to actually look forward to these calls!

Remember, your children will be the beneficiaries of your improved relationship. Baby steps!!