Try this effective method for breaking the cycle of conflict with your co-parent:

One evening each week, at a pre-designated. mutually agreed upon time, have a “Positive Co-Parenting Phone Call”. This is where one co-parent calls the other for the sole purpose of imparting some positive information regarding the children. Then the other parent gives some positive information about the children to the other parent. The next week, the other parent initiates the call.

A simple phone call to discuss something positive about your children. That’s it. Nothing else. It can be about anything at all. The only rule is that it must be positive. No problems or issues are to be discussed.

This technique will help you to change your paradigm regarding speaking with your co-parent as negative, and always about problems. You may find that you begin to actually look forward to these calls!

Remember, your children will be the beneficiaries of your improved relationship. Baby steps!!