Have you ever tried to figure out what the heck to do when you and your ex just can’t agree on an issue, before, during or after your divorce, and it keeps coming up over and over? Well, it will keep coming up until you both learn the lesson - that compromise can be a win-win.

When you are constantly at odds with your ex, it becomes habitual. You both want to win. But don’t you really know down deep inside that there is a better way?

Try this the next time you are polarized on an issue, whether it be over your divorce settlement, child visitation or the divorce laws, before you run off to your divorce attorneys, dig deep and see just how important this REALLY is to you. Then try to put yourself in your ex’s shoes - how important is it to them? If it isn’t a 10 or near a 10 to you, then be big and let them have their way. (It will also be interesting to note just how many things are a 10 to you.) This spirit of cooperation will open the doors to compromise as a way of dealing with each other.

Truthfully, wouldn’t you rather be happy than right? Talk about a win-win.