I cannot believe the article I read the other day. Boy, did this couple need Divorce Mediation!

A man in Berlin who was a trained mason, was getting divorced. While going through the divorce process, he took a chainsaw, cut the house he owned with his wife exactly in half (he measured it!), and drove away with his half in a forklift truck.

You can read the full article here.

Now, even though the divorce laws in most areas support that whatever the parties got during the marriage should be divided equally, this guy’s wife didn’t appreciate the metaphor.

All kidding aside, this really isn’t that far off from what I’ve seen in my 25 years in the divorce business. Yes, people really do misbehave during the divorce process! They’re in divorce court, which is the adversarial system, for goodness sake!

Okay, I’ll admit that reading an article like this is hilarious. But can you imagine, when things are that bitter, the effects of divorce on children?

It takes a lot of maturity to do a divorce right. Learn all that you can about alternative dispute resolution, especially divorce mediation. Then, find a divorce lawyer who supports it, and you will be on the road to a peaceful divorce.

Now, don’t you think that’s a better idea than solving your divorce problems with power tools?

Not everyone has the same experience when using divorce mediation during their divorce process.  Of course, part of the reason for that is that each person has a unique set of circumstances, and, personalities present in their divorce.

However, there are certain “rules” that apply across the board when it comes to how successful your mediation is going to be.  These are:

· How committed you are to a peaceful resolution
· How committed your divorce attorney is to a peaceful resolution
· How willing you are to forgive your spouse, and yourself
· How willing you are to take full responsibility for your life and choices

People who go into a mediation letting their lawyers do all the talking, needing to get even, needing to win, and delegating the decision-making to their divorce attorneys, will not experience all that mediation has to offer.

These folks will use the mediation process the same way as the litigation process, then complain that it doesn’t work!  But Divorce Mediation does work.  As they say, “It works if you work it.” 

Divorce Mediation can lead to a peaceful resolution of your breakup and an uncontested divorce settlement, which greatly minimizes the negative effects of divorce on children.  It can move you and your spouse through the cause of divorce, and beyond, to an effective co-parenting relationship. It can help you successfully settle all issues regarding divorce child custody.

And, your mediation can save you thousands of dollars in the process!  Can you think of anything else you’d like to spend that money on?  Well, go ahead, think about all that it can buy – and get committed to making the most of your Divorce Mediation.