For the life of me, I can’t figure out why anyone would litigate their divorce, when they have the option to mediate. Is it even possible in this day and age, that anyone considering getting a divorce, in the middle of a divorce, or already divorced and still fighting with their ex, hasn’t heard about divorce mediation?

Ask anyone who has been to divorce court how they liked that experience. We know who the only winners are there – the divorce lawyers! But don’t blame them, if you hire them, you know what you are getting. After all, they are trained to fight over things like divorce child custody, alimony and the like!

Do you know that your chances of having a divorce agreement, and an uncontested divorce increase dramatically if you go to divorce mediation instead of divorce court? Why in the world would you roll the dice on a judge’s decision, when you can make the decisions yourselves?

What are you waiting for? Go ahead, try divorce mediation as an alternative dispute resolution between you and your ex. You just may find yourselves getting along better than you have in years. And saving thousands in the process.

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What would you like your relationship with your ex-partner to look like? Have you ever thought about it?

How can you get what you want, if you don’t know what you want?

Most people spend their time thinking about what they don’t want, rather than what they do want. You know that what you focus on expands.

How about sitting down and figuring out what your perfect relationship with your ex-partner would look like? If what you are thinking is, “Nothing! I don’t want a thing to do with them, ever again!”, think again. How likely is that to happen, when you have kids? And you won’t be able to move forward, until you have forgiven - them and yourself.

So think about that perfect relationship with your soon-to-be-ex, or ex. Think about it every day. Feel how great it would feel, for yourselves, your families and mutual friends, as if it had already happened. Share these inspired ideas with your ex.

Watch in amazement how quickly things change for the better as you see yourselves working together as a team, to create your perfect co-parenting relationship.

It’s simple. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

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Whatever your causes of divorce, from infidelity, to a communication breakdown, to a general growing apart, Divorce Mediation can be successful in resolving your disputed issues with your ex.

There are some cases of physical abuse where divorce mediation is not recommended, however, with the right mediator and a safe environment, such as holding the mediation at the Courthouse, even these cases sometimes may be appropriately mediated. Ask your attorney for specific advice before proceeding to a mediation where physical abuse has been an issue.

The divorce mediation process, in addition to helping you to settle the issues in your case, such as divorce child custody, can also set the tone and the framework for you and your ex to have improved and more effective communication in the future. This is especially important in cases where you will have to co-parent with them, and continue engage in dispute resolution, as issues arise.

Remember, even though each couple has different causes of divorce, be sure to consider utilizing divorce mediation if you are interested in a divorce settlement, and an uncontested divorce.

And with the cost of a contested divorce, emotionally and financially, who wouldn’t be?